I do all of my own work, which includes getting it really clean to sell it every other year or two so I can buy a new one!
I am not saying that you have to have a brand new bike all the time (although I would recommend it), but unless your bike is a restored classic, sell it. Your shiny bolt on parts can be sold on Ebay.
Personally, I have never understood how people can be so in love with these things and hold on to them for so long. One thing is for sure though, it does sound like you may have invested too much money in to it.
Im not trying to argue or anything. The exterior is all stock, all of the money is in the motor, and suspension. If you have a bike that is setup perfectly for how you ride power preference and suspension, man it sucks to get everything perfect again. Sure I guess were in love ive had this thing since 04 picked it up new the year after, its to much of a hassle to buy new unless you get a steal. I like saving the 1500-2500 dollars you spend every year, and use it on the good stuff that your new stocker with bolton's doesn't have.