Get the right spring, forget what the 200 lb guy said, and if you are short then you can use more rear sag as long as you also lower the front (forks up in the clamps) to match. This works for me.
100mm is a sane starting point for most bikes, but it assumes correct springs, suitable fork height, and reasonable damper settings.
eg. forks up 10mm and springs are right both ends, then 105mm rear sag might be just fine.
Front and rear heights must match to get the right turning and stability behavior. It's super fundamental to bike setup. Get the right springs and dont adjust rear sag for any other purpose than changing turning or stability. Find a nice moderately berm turn, then try the rear too high and too low, and you should quickly feel what's going on.
You probably know that measuring rear sag is difficult on your own. You need wear at least your helmet and boots, and you need to be in the riding position. Well I think it's more important to be in a reproducible position so you can compare next time, so I just stand up straight on the pegs with one finger balancing me on a wall, while my assistance measures.