You asked a question and are getting great responses. The problem with writing is it is hard to convey your suggestion in a concise way without coming across a bit aloof. Don't take it personally or as a personal shot at your "man card". I say this as some of your responses are a bit defensive. People willing to spend their time to help a "newer" rider won't take too kindly to being scolded for their delivery method or tone as tone is hard to convey in writing as well.
Take it for what it's worth, off my soapbox
Side note, speaking of keeping yourself alive and well, you never mentioned protective gear that you wear.
Thanks, yes, I know. I personally like the fellow I was scolding, and I knew I was doing it.
I did it deliberately because I asked for recommendations other than training. So, what did I get? A training recommendation.
So, I'm rather glad that you noticed.
I *am* very grateful for all the help here. Really, I mean it sincerely. Including his, he has been very kind to me, and patient with me.
All of you have been kind, and I am thankful that you, he, and the rest of this crew are alive, well, and here.
On to what I wear, then? *Lots* of very expensive gear. Fortunately, I am able to afford the best, and I bought it, and I wear it, all the time. All told, over $1000 worth of gear and clothing when I ride. I feel well protected when I ride off 20 ft. cliffs (true story, by accident not on purpose), and get pinned under the cycle occasionally. I did not have all this gear to begin with, I had to be convinced I needed it.
Yup, I need it